The Little Church at Our House

Note: To properly understand the position of the writer please read the author's message "To The Reader".

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Conveying An Intangible Moment

How do I begin? How can anyone put in words feelings and emotions arising from the intimacy of a moment? A mother embracing her son arriving home from war, a warm, toasty fire and a cup of hot chocolate on a snowy, winter's eve or a walk along a deserted beach at sunset as the waves gently lick the shore and the clamor of the last seagull fades in the distance. How can the spirit of such moments flow from pen to paper? Such is the difficulty I encounter when trying to express the warmth of moments shared among the brethren who meet at our house.

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The temperature outside has barely reached forty; it's winter, it's Sunday and the shadows of evening are now appearing as the cars begin to arrive and find space to park around our middle class home located in the American heartland of Oklahoma, in a suburb of Oklahoma City. The sounds of car doors opening and closing can be heard as each family makes their way up the path to our front door. Each family is carrying their contribution to the meal we'll soon be sharing together.

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When We Meet

No need to ring the door bell or knock; no need for security, those who enter are closer than relatives; they're our spiritual family and, if needed, all we possess would belong to them. As they enter, those who have preceded their arrival, together with our family, greet them and for a few moments, there are warm embraces, kisses, laughter and some enthusiastic barking from our two small dogs. Coats are hung up and the newly arrived home cooked food, is quickly transported to the kitchen where it is placed on the kitchen table, in a location conveniently accessible to each of us who will soon be gathered there to eat. The children begin to congregate and catch up on the latest teen and preadolescent news. The men gather in the comfortable seats that surround the fireplace located in the den adjacent to the kitchen where the women are busy making last minute preparations for supper.

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Food For The Body

A few moments later, one of the women announces to all that supper is ready. An instant later, each place is occupied amid the din of moving chairs and a variety of disconnected conversation. Suddenly, as if commanded, conversations abruptly come to a halt, all is still, heads are bowed and a single voice can be heard thanking God for our food, our fellowship and our unity. The word, "Amen" triggers a flurry of activity as voices once again are raised, hands begin reaching for food, serving instruments are heard striking bowls and pots, as glasses and dishes clink together and conversation erupts once again. It covers a wide variety of topics, both personal and spiritual, laughter appears to be the seasoning which generously salts this warm verbal interaction. There is a sense of joy, a peace, a feeling of contentment, our spiritual family is together and, at least for this moment, all is well. We could of course, break bread and pass the communion cup while still at the table but instead, we will put this off for a while so that it can be savored as a sweet desert.

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The meal now over, the youngsters, following the direction of their parents, begin to clear the dishes and food from the table. The folding chairs are put away or moved to another room for further use. The disposable dishes are quickly discarded as the pots and pans that held the food are washed and returned to their owners. While the final clean up is being done, the men assemble in the small room at the front of our house that I use for my study. Because there are only a few chairs, the older men sit while the younger ones stand.

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Food For The Soul

As men, we gather and encourage each other to share what God has shared with us and for a few moments, we will discuss the best order to offer each contribution. The routine may change from week to week but there must always be order. The women have done a fine job of feeding our physical bodies, but the job of preparing and serving the spiritual food needed to nourish our spiritual body, our church, has been left to us. God has been faithful to provide our physical needs and He, through the Holy Spirit, will now provide for our spiritual needs as well.

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After a brief discussion of who will contribute what and when, we move to prayer. One of those seated leads in prayer calling on God for His wisdom and strength to be upon each of us as we speak in His name. We pray for His continued blessing and protection of our church and the churches of our fellow brethren. We pray for unity, love and guidance as we exalt our God and His only begotten Son, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

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Just before we finish, we hear three, soft knocks on the study door announcing to us that the women, children and guests now await us in the front room for our church meeting. Each of us will contribute whatever God has placed on our heart for the church. Each spiritual gift given will be examined in context with the word of God and the elders will quietly and lovingly correct anything which contradicts God's word.

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Each man will contribute whatever God has placed on his heart for the church. One might offer a song of worship or praise or teach us one. Another might share a short story or testimony. Yet another might contribute a short teaching or exhortation lasting no more than ten minutes each. In depth teachings, designed to biblically educate the church, are offered each Wednesday evening but not now. Tonight's teachings, though brief, are designed to edify, to build up the brethren; they are specifically directed to improve the spiritual health of the assembly, to offer guidance and direction for our spiritual body.

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A Few Particulars

We gathered to eat at 5PM, the men meet for prayer about 5:30PM and we assemble for our church meeting in the front room, the largest room in our house about 6PM. A small sofa for two, often called a "love seat" sits in the center of one of the walls. On each side if it, there sits a winged back arm chair. On the longest wall, there is another sofa able to accommodate three people comfortably. In another corner, there sits a Canadian rocking chair and ottoman. Add to this six folding chairs, with padding, and we can sit a total of fourteen people before we begin to use the floor for overflow seating.

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We try to reserve the more comfortable seating for the adults, assigning the youngsters to the less comfortable folding chairs. On occasions when visitors stretch our group to greater numbers, the children get the sacrificial privilege of being seated on the floor. Parents of young children (babies and toddlers) in our fellowship understand that young children can be disruptive to a church meeting and trying for them, so they've made arrangements with grandparents, relatives or friends to care for the children while they attend the church meeting. On occasion, one of the younger ones in attendance will act out. When this happens, one of the parents quickly and quietly ushers the little renegade out of the room for an attitude adjustment, returning once their private meeting has produced the desired result. Well, I've gotten a little ahead of myself; let me return to when the men join their families at the church meeting.

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Back On Track

Once the men have finished their private meeting and prayer held in the study, they proceed across the hall to the larger room used for the church meeting. A quiet hush falls over the room as they enter, all conversation ceases as the men take the places held open for them by their families. Once seated, letters received from brethren in other house churches are read; usually these are in the form of four or five brief email communications. A prayer for each of the churches represented by these letters is offered by one of the brethren and congregational praise begins.

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Songs of praise sung to the music of a classical guitar or sung accapella begin to flow one after another. Following this, one, two or three brothers, speaking one at a time, may offer a testimony, prophecy, story or short teaching. Often the story read is one about a martyr who gave his life for the truth of God. In addition, as many as three may speak in tongues providing another who is known to have the spiritual gift of interpretation is on hand to reveal the message.

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The lights are turned low, as once again, we raise our voices in song, only this time, the spirit of the music is more solemn; it carries a tone of adoration and worship. As each song comes to an end, we see one or two women slip to the floor as they cover their heads completely. They kneel with heads bowed low and one at a time, pray for those things which God has placed on their heart. There is a sense of sweetness, humility and adoration which is experienced as this is repeated again and again intertwined with these beautiful pieces of music being sung. If we were to ask ourselves why they pray in this fashion, I'm sure the spirit within would ask, "What position should one take when speaking to their Savior and King"? After each has had opportunity to pray and four or five worship songs have been sung, this portion of worship ends with the singing of "Oh Lord, you're beautiful". As the first verse of that song is being sung, the two candles on the coffee table are lit and the remaining lights turned off.

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Around His Table

Between the two candle sticks, now bathing the room in soft candle light, sits a small wooden dish resting beside a simple wooden cup; the dish contains a single loaf of unleavened bread (a tortilla) and the cup has been filled with red wine. As the second verse of the song plays, the entire assembly slips to the floor completely surrounding the small coffee table.

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Adults and children, young and old, friends and guests, all who are part of God's spiritual family will eat from the one loaf and drink from the one cup. We are God's children, brothers and sisters all. We are all a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, brought together to proclaim the praises of Him who called us out of the darkness of sin into His marvelous light. Gone are the altars and pulpits of man made tradition. Gone, the stained glass and pews; no longer do families sit in neat little rows like eggs in a box. We gather now as a family and as a family we meet in a home. We communicate as a family, we celebrate as a family and we dedicate our lives to the Lord and to each other as a family.

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Before we share the bread or wine we will spiritually cleanse ourselves by confessing our sin before God in a few moments of silent prayer. Like children, we will spiritually wash our hands before joining our Father to eat at His table. No one should come to this table with the dirty hands of unconfessed or unrepented sin (1 John 1:9). One of the elders (older men) or teachers will take the bread, break it and bless it. This he will do as he reminds us that we now share the body of Christ which has been broken for us so that we, as His spiritual body the church, will not be broken (Matthew 16:18).

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He reminds all that we are each individual members of the same spiritual body. We are joined together with every joint supplying what another member lacks. The same elder or another takes the cup and blesses it or passes it to another to be blessed. He reminds us that this cup is, in a spiritual sense, the blood of Christ, blood shed for the remission of our sin. He speaks of its cleansing power, its ability to not only remove all sin but all traces of the accompanying guilt and shame. "There is no sin stronger than the power of Christ's blood to cleanse it" he says. He reminds us that one day we will gather with Him. This bread and cup are given as a token of remembrance, His promised formal invitation to the marriage supper of the Lamb where we will once again break bread and share this cup with Him.

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One Family

Now here, in this moment, we will share this remembrance as the Apostles did when they sat at the table with Jesus in the upper room; a room illuminated by the natural light of the flame. They sang a song before ending their meeting and we will also, as we honor our relationship, by singing Psalm 133; "Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for the brethren to dwell together in unity." As we sing, instead of closing our eyes, we look at each other. The faces of our spiritual family now appear to glow in the soft candle light. Warm smiles begin to appear on each face as together we realize that the Spirit of God is upon us, God's presence is with us and we are one family united in love just as He prayed we would be (John 17:21-23). We are one with Christ, Hallelujah!

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Our final song now sung, one of the elders asks if there is anything left unsaid or undone. To this he adds, assuming no one speaks, "Then, if we are satisfied that we have left our spiritual gifts at the altar, let us, as God's people, say 'Amen'." The assembly responds with, "Amen". The candles are then extinguished and the lights are once again turned on.

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The meeting is over but there will be a time of fellowship to follow. Perhaps coffee with some cake or hot chocolate and cookies but whatever is presented to eat, the hunger of our hearts has been satisfied to overflowing. As I said in the beginning, it is difficult at best to communicate these precious times with paper and ink; you must experience them yourself to truly see and feel the power of genuine unity in Christ. This is how the little church at our house meets, how does your church meet?

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It's one thing to describe our little church, but what has been revealed so far, is little more than a mere glimpse of our weekly meeting. A church is much more than what you see at the meeting. What you've seen so far is like looking at the fine form of a new automobile but it's what's under the hood or bonnet that makes the difference. Let's take a closer look at this spiritual machine. Let's define our position clearly, ask relevant questions and suggest areas of our spiritual lives that need attention. Let's begin with the basics and go from there. Maybe what we think is a church is only a sect and we need to make a change. Perhaps the church we attend needs a major overhaul or at least a good tune-up. Let's begin by defining what a church is.

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What Is A Church?

For many, a church is a building set aside or constructed for the worship of God. Is it? For many others, it's a meeting that usually takes place on Sunday morning when the saints (believers) come together. Is it? If it's a building, then when Christ returns for the church, we'll get to see a lot of buildings rising to meet Him in the air. I guess we'll just stand there and wave goodbye. If it's only a meeting, then what happens to it when it's not gathered? As far as I can tell, the universal church of Christ has never been gathered anywhere at any time since extending beyond the city limits of Jerusalem. However, one day it will be gathered together by angels. Are we to assume that because it does not now have regularly scheduled meetings it doesn't exist? Isn't the church meeting just that, the church meeting together? What about the church playing or the church working? Do these things not exist? Do we not need to work while there is yet time? What is our work? Is it not to do the will of God? Shouldn't we study the word of truth? Should we not serve the needs of the brethren, especially those within our own house and assembly?

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At The Beginning

In the early church, letters were sent between each church family and regular lines of communication were kept open and active. Today by phone, computer and an efficient mail system, we can reach most locations on the entire planet. Why then, do we see so little appreciation and fellowship between individual churches? There is plenty to do. So much so, that we need a special meeting once a week called church to coordinate it all. A church meeting, what an idea. A meeting where we can read the letters sent by other brethren from near and distant locations. A meeting where we can coordinate our efforts to reach the poor and needy, you know, the least of the brethren. A meeting where the developing spiritual gifts of brethren are being used, gifts of song, teaching, prayer, prophecy and others. We have a message to give to a world bound for destruction, are we getting it out?

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Looking For Work?

There are seven days in a week. How many should we dedicate to serving the Lord? Are we not a church all seven days? If we take our priesthood seriously, should we not be busy going about our Father's business? Are we our brother's keeper or not? Each of us, as an individual member of the church, brings to the church our own special, peculiar gifts for the benefit of all. God has called each of us to fulfill the purpose for which we were called. Brother or sister, what is your ministry, your calling? What are your gifts and how are you using them? If we do not have fruit that increases God's kingdom, of what spiritual value are we? God has called us to follow the example of Christ as leaders in training. Disciples grow up to be leaders, leaders that set an example of service. A true leader serves others so, what others do you serve? If you don't have an answer to this question, then for your sake, I hope you find one.

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Getting Ready For Service

No one should become a part of the church who doesn't intend to be used by the Lord. Every Christian should make it their custom to be a part of the body of Christ and attend church meetings. This means that every brother or sister in Christ should begin to prepare for service. To avoid wasting time, fumbling around in the bible looking for a certain scripture verse, we should first know the names and order of all the New Testament books. Then, I suggest we read the New Testament through carefully four times, whether we understand everything or not. We should get in the habit of marking key verses that relate something special to us, verses we want to remember.

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Next, I would suggest we read the Old Testament books of Genesis, Exodus, Numbers and Deuteronomy two times, remembering that the Old Testament law was completed by Christ who issued a new covenant (contract) for us; one that is still in effect. After this, we should read Joshua, Judges and Ruth two times then First and Second Samuel and First and Second Kings two times. Last we should read Isaiah, Jeremiah and Daniel three times. When we have completed these assignments, we can go back and read the other books not mentioned here. Now, we are ready to begin learning the bible and for this, we will need a good, gifted bible teacher who is himself a serious student of God's word.

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Keep It In Balance

Within the body of Christ there must be balance. If the body works then it must also take time to rest. Fellowship among the brethren is healthy and important. Yes, we get together for our church meeting on Sunday and our study on Wednesday but if our church is also our circle of friends there should be joyful midweek interaction for fun. There are games to play, places to visit, like other assemblies, and things to do that bring joy and richness to our relationship with each other. Let's do them. If we can afford the money to engage in an activity of play, let us see if we can include another who can't afford it. If we can afford to feed our family of three, let's see if we can include another family of two or three. Let our generosity be guided by humility, counting it a privilege to share our table with others.

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Giving Birth

Let the elders be constantly searching for the brother whose house and family is in order and whose life reflects the qualities of integrity needed for good leadership. When brothers like this are discovered, then let the elders give them opportunity to teach. Let the elders sit and observe quietly while these other brothers move forward. When the numbers of the church swell as the church becomes pregnant, then let the elders deliver a new church from among their assembly. Let them appoint new shepherds to care for this body and not try to retain shepherding authority over this new born. Children naturally carry a genetic likeness to their parents and the new church will resemble its parent church in many, if not most ways and there will be a natural love and bond that will always exist between them as long as their independence is respected.

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The Roaring Lion Within

Fathers who try to rule over the families of their sons usually create more problems than they solve. This is true for elders as well. The church is a growing and birthing family. It meets as a family, it learns as a family, works as a family and plays as a family. It is a family seven days a week, fifty-two weeks a year. Because it's the family of God, it can't be destroyed from the outside; Satan has no power to do this. It can only be destroyed from within, not by Satan, but by our own prideful ways. Families have disagreements but they remain a family. Where there are contentions, there are also ways to end them. If you find no source of healing within your church family, seek the wisdom of a trusted brother from another church but resolve your division. When unity triumphs, God triumphs. When division triumphs, Satan wins the battle. Let's not give Satan any victories. We know, he’s already lost the war!

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What's The Difference?

Often, when we meet those who attend institutional churches, they say, "You meet in houses and we in churches (they mean church buildings), what's the difference?" Interestingly enough, some of these differences are revealed in the very traditions they practice. Traditions like head covering or uncovering, baptism, communion, etc, mean something. Each of these is a spiritual sign language which carries a message to God if it comes from the heart.

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In many churches today, infants, rather than believers, are baptized. Babies, until taught, know nothing of the redeeming power of Christ's blood, so how can they be believers, especially when they are acceptable just as they are (Matthew 18:2)? Others pour water over the head of the convert or sprinkle him with water. If baptism is a symbol of God's cleansing power to remove sin after repentance, then how much sin do we want removed? Do we want to be cleansed of all sin? Most sin? A little sin? What does the sign language of our baptism say? If we only pour water over a portion of our body or merely sprinkle it, what are we telling God? Are we not saying, "Cleanse me a little and forgive me a little?" Can we afford to leave the stain of any sin uncleansed?

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What about communion? Many institutional churches commemorate this remembrance by distributing little, individually baked crackers followed by small, individual, glasses of wine or grape juice. Others use raised bread, forgetting that yeast (leaven) is a symbol for sin and when we break raised bread we're, in a spiritual sense, receiving the sinful body of Christ. Unthinkable!

1 Corinthians 5:6-8
6 Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?
7 Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:
8 Therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, neither with the leaven of malice and wickedness; but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.

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Those who eat individual crackers or wafers and drink from separate little cups are making a spiritual statement to God and their fellow brethren. What are they saying? They're saying, "We are independent from each other and not all from the same body." They're saying, "We are not sharing the cup of the Lord together. We are not a family that shares the same blood." This may be truer than they realize. This symbol may truly reflect the condition of their hearts though they practice it in ignorance.

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When our women cover to speak to or for God, what does it mean? What or who is it for? Why is it done? They do it because God asked them to demonstrate to the angels that they understand the order and authority of God. Some of the angels didn't. If a woman only covers a small part of her head, what message does she give these angels? Is she not saying that I am only partially under the authority of male leadership? Most women in today's institutional churches wear no covering at all and this reflects much of today's reality. Most women today are not under any authority but their own and they don't care who knows it.

1 Corinthians 11:1-3
11:1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you.
3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

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Much More Than A House

The majority of house churches today have a sincere desire to return to the practices of the early church, the simple, loving church that was established on Christ and the apostles. These assemblies are dedicated to obeying God and His word. They are determined to follow the model, form, apostolic traditions and New Testament pattern set forth in scripture. It is this, that sets them apart, not because they meet in a house but rather, because they meet as the New Testament church met. They have chosen to practice the traditions and doctrines of the apostles (2 Thessalonians 2:15, Acts 2:42) as opposed to that of man created institutions. Their leaders wear no special dress as the Pharisees did or for that matter, many of today's clergy. They make no distinction between laity and clergy because according to God's word, we're all "priests", a holy nation (1 Peter 2:9). They erect no steeples, build no altars, stages or platforms. They do not adorn their places of worship with idols, stained glass or costly materials. They do not pay salaries to their shepherds, secretaries, musicians or janitors. Instead, they care for the widows, orphans and poor in their spiritual family or those in need among the brethren in other locations. You see, there's a lot more to it than just the fact that we meet in a house. Have you ever thought how nice it would be to be a part of a church where you could make a difference? House church meetings are designed to encourage questions and participation from all who come prepared to study God's word (1 Corinthians 14:26). We discourage one man shows. We mentor and nurture the gifts in each member so each may find their place in God's spiritual, master plan. We regard each as a leader or one in training. The method of teaching used is a method passed down from Jesus Himself and called "discipleship". There are many other differences that could be mentioned but I'm sure by this time you're convinced of this and therefore, there are multiple reasons to meet as a house church aside from the fact that we meet in a house.

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Fear, Fluff And Force

Fear: Many of today's house churches are made up of those who've come out of the institutional church. Because the institutional setting is structured after the pattern of the corporate community (the business world), the ugly beast of personal ambition and jealous fear are inherent in many members and leaders. This fear is not the Godly jealousy spoken of by Paul (2 Corinthians 11:2) but that which occurs when one's position of power and influence is perceived as being threatened. Shouldn't we protect God's flock from the wolves which come to devour it? Yes, by all acceptable means, protect the flock from wolves, those who deceive and spread false teaching. Often we find, to our shame, that we are more threatened by good, honest and gifted teachers than we are of wolves. We're afraid they'll outshine us as teachers or leaders and we begin to look for any flaw by which we may wrongfully disqualify and discredit them before our flock. We infuse fear and suspicion into our flock. The sheep grow nervous thinking a wolf dressed in the sheep's clothing of a shepherd is walking among them. This is the precise reaction these jealous shepherds hope to create.

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Mature leaders with mature, well taught flocks need not fear, mature, well taught Christians are not carried away with every wind of doctrine. Leaders must examine their own motives, the thoughts and intents of their own hearts. Has selfish ambition crept in? Are you turning away a messenger from God because you perceive him to be a threat to your position? Do we believe that every doctrine we teach is perfect, needing no correction or modification? If a brother comes teaching something we're unfamiliar with, is he automatically wrong? Don't we owe it to him to at least consider his position and check it against God's word as the yet unsaved Bereans did (Acts 17:11)? When you reject God's messenger, you reject God. Is that something we really want to do (Matthew 21:35)? Do we want to be as stiff-necked as the children of Israel who stoned their own prophets? Leaders who are that insecure should not be in leadership. Leaders should always do what is best for the flock, not what is best for them. Having said this, we should be on guard for any leader, ours or another, who seeks to build his own empire rather than God's kingdom. Many of today's leaders profess to be building God's kingdom while in truth, they're building their own empire.

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Fluff: Many Christians determined to return to the early apostolic traditions are now meeting in homes in keeping with first century Christianity. Not only are they meeting in homes but many are sifting their own doctrines, reviewing the hand-me-down doctrines they've grown comfortable with to see if they'll stand the test of biblical criticism. Some are content to sit around, holding hands and singing, "Jesus loves me" while no attempt to restore biblical integrity is made. They're content to agree to disagree and what's more pathetic, they call this unity. Many of these home groups are so busy navel gazing (looking within themselves) that they don't recognize what's happening. They're so concerned with getting the form correct they've forgotten about the most important element of the early church, its function. They're busy dotting all the 'i's' and crossing all the 't's', making sure they have plural leadership. They focus on sound biblical church meetings conducted decently and in order. They encourage all the brothers to participate but they often neglect the more important areas of worship, like tending to the needs of widows, orphans and poor within their own flock. Often, they ignore the needs of other brethren in kindred flocks near and far. What is pure religion?

James 1:27
27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.

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A church that's become so engrossed in its form that it loses sight of its function is like a woman who spends so much time in the mirror that she forgets to attend the occasion she's primping for. A church that fails to help needy brethren has lost its way. It has become so preoccupied with fluff that it has lost its power; its force for bringing positive change to the lives of others and setting an example of love for them.

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Force: The force of a church is the impact that it makes on the lives of its members. The most efficient way to make this kind of impact is to meet the needs of the brethren. I speak of the needy within the local church body and beyond this, to the body of Christ in near and distant places.

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Independent assemblies that have no relationship, no interaction with other independent assemblies and do not choose to look at the needs of other assemblies or reach out to help with these needs are just fluff. They're empty vessels that honor God with their lips but who's hearts have totally ignored the message of the gospel, esp. Matthew 25:31-44 and Matthew 15:8. They are self deceived, believing themselves to be part of the body of Christ but refusing to attach themselves to any other part of His body. They are an illusion, a mirage, a toy or make believe church, window dressing that shows great form but has little function, without the power or force to make a real difference. They're like institutional church people who spend a lot of time and money to look grand on Sunday morning, making sure they carry their seldom used bible under their arm. They look like sincere members but have no real substance. All show and no go!

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An assembly like this should never be considered part of Christ's body. It is not part of His body, it's more like part of ours. It's become a church of men and is as carnal as the institutional church it broke from, no matter what it calls itself. We'll know them by their fruit, not their name. Like the church at Sardis, many have a name which suggests they live but are already dead (Revelation 3:1). Churches like Sardis have no life force within. No force, no life, no life, no Christ (John 14:6).

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The Needs Of Our Spiritual Family

Some times, as leaders, we focus on the immediate needs that exist among our church family and fail to see the potential dangers that lie ahead. We don't plan for them because we aren't sure we'll be able to meet the really serious challenges. We think of schemes to provide for the temporary needs of the flesh. We turn for help to government welfare, political or educational agencies to help us provide solutions for our larger problems. We depend on worldly institutions to rescue us in our distress. The little church that meets at our house must begin to build a spiritual replacement for these resources. We must not look for worldly social or economic programs to resolve our problems. Instead, we must learn to develop the vehicle God gave us and intended us to use to meet such needs. This vehicle is His church. Our little church should be able to meet all its normal routine needs, needs like food, clothes, housing and employment. Good leadership should, with God's help, be able to teach each church member that we are our brother's keeper. We must learn to give in proportion to the way we've been blessed and beyond. We must train all our people to work and focus on helping them to find jobs or, if able, supply them with a job. We must care for those who are aged or physically limited but allow and encourage them to do what they can for themselves.

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Even so, there are some problems so large, so overwhelming that they can't be carried by one, small, neighborhood church family. God never intended such crushing burdens to be borne on the shoulders of one, little, independent flock of believers. Needs like this are presented to us by God as an opportunity to demonstrate our love for each other, one church family to another. Our house church here in Oklahoma, USA has demonstrated this to some of you already so you know it works. An emergency requiring a large sum of money, for example $1000.00 US, would be very difficult for any one assembly to raise for a needy member but if one hundred neighborhood assemblies contribute $10.00 US, the need is met. Certainly an entire assembly could produce $10.00 US if needed.

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If a member of your little church needs a life saving operation requiring more money than your church has, who do you turn to? You turn to God! What instrument does He use to provide it? His church! Who is your neighbor, your "Good Samaritan"? Shouldn't help come from our brethren, those in other related families? My grandmother often said, "Many hands make light work". If your little church is a friend and neighbor of our little church and we have good relations with many other little churches, then a little help from each could move the crushing weight of hardship easily, making possible what seemed impossible. God's second greatest gift to man is His church. We need to build it and use it the way He intended.

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The church belongs to Christ but it has been placed in our hands for our benefit. It exists to bless us if we'll just clear the scales of human wisdom and worldliness from our eyes and understand how God intended it to function. We must stop and consider how we can become the church God intended us to be. We must not only prepare to face the problems of today but plan for tomorrow's problems as well. Think in terms of hundreds of little churches helping each other. We need to catch a bigger vision for the church. Remember, "Where there is no vision, the people perish" (Proverbs 29:18).

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Will you commit yourselves as a church to bring this vision into existence? Will you join with us to help one another? Can we count on your assembly to give anytime an emergency arises within our family of house churches? Those who come to this table may eat from it. Those who don't won't. Those who take more than their share will share in its blessings no more.

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On To Perfection

In Hebrews chapter six, verse one, we find the following: "Therefore, leaving the discussion of the elementary principles of Christ, let us go on to perfection (completion), not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God…"

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I have been privileged to have been God's instrument in the delivery of well over one thousand babies. Often, I have heard the new mothers ask, "Does my baby have all his/her fingers and toes; is it all right?" The answer most often given by those in attendance is, "He or she is perfect" indicating that the baby is complete, lacking nothing and in good health.

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The term "perfect" in scripture most often means 'complete' rather than 'without error'. In Colossians 2:28, Paul, speaking of Christ, says, "Him we preach warning every man and teaching every man in all wisdom, that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus." Paul desires each of us to be mature, complete in or understanding of Christ. To accomplish this, we must somehow get past the fundamental principles of our knowledge and faith. In Matthew 5:48, Jesus said, "Therefore, you shall be perfect just as your Father in heaven is perfect." We know that as long as we abide in our sinful flesh, we will never be as perfect, as righteous, as pure as our Heavenly Father for we already bear in our flesh the scars of our sinful past but we can be completely equipped with the knowledge He has given us through Christ and His servants, the apostles and prophets.

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The Number's Game

Today's religious sects divide under varied denominational titles and are continually seeking new members to increase the size and wealth of their congregations. Because they hold meetings that are open to anyone, they must constantly seek to convert rather than educate. The church must carry on the work of evangelism but, is the church meeting the place to do it? Shouldn't the church meeting be the meeting of the church? Anyone unsaved is not a member. If we have a meeting of the redeemed and unredeemed, we would have an evangelistic meeting like Peter had at his first major sermon in Jerusalem or Paul had at Athens. This however, is not a church meeting for when the church assembles, all of its members are part of the body of Christ; there are no unbelievers present. Evangelism should take place outside the church meeting and should be accomplished by every true member of the church. Women to women, children to other children and men to everyone who is willing to listen. New converts should then be brought in and introduced to the church. The discipling of these new brethren should be done in their house or other relaxed setting by an experienced teacher from the church. When they have sufficiently learned the basics of the faith, they can begin to attend the mid-week, in depth bible study attended by the more mature members; those being trained to teach.

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Institutional sects (institutional churches), are compelled by continuous debt, to constantly seek new converts to help meet their mortgage, maintenance, salary and utility demands. They have a building to pay for and maintain. The secretaries, pastors, janitors, etc all require salaries and so the need for money is never-ending, never pausing and never quenched. The milk of God's word is always being poured out at these institutions because they've become nothing more than huge spiritual nurseries which care for a never shrinking population of spiritual babies. Because these newborns will never receive much in the way of spiritual meat, their growth will be seriously stunted. These spiritual children never get to go on to perfection (completion).

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This is where the house church shines. Following the pattern of Jesus by discipling, each new convert is taken by the hand and mentored by a mature brother. They are fed milk until they're able to digest more solid spiritual food. At this point, they are tutored in the small, intense framework of the house church bible study where they go far beyond those who attend the institutional giants. Don't other institutions have bible studies also? Yes, of course, but they must teach according to the approved doctrinal line. A line that may not be the truth or may never reach beyond the elementary Sunday school lesson plan.

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Discipline Is Up To Us

The leaders of the local neighborhood assembly are responsible to maintain God's spiritual house. In the fifth chapter of First Corinthians, Paul is forced to exercise his authority as an apostle. Why? Because those responsible to maintain the integrity of the church, those shepherds privileged with the oversight of God's flock, had failed to take appropriate action in a matter of great importance. It seems a man was having a sexual affair with his stepmother and the church, having knowledge of it, was doing nothing.

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The first century, hand picked, apostles of Christ had power and divine privilege accorded just to them (John 20:23). God had imparted special authority on these men immediately after they had received the Holy Spirit (John 20:22). It extended to Paul who was now forced to use it because of the cowardly leadership and timid congregation found in the church at Corinth. Perhaps the man responsible for this sin was powerful, popular or rich and the leadership had somehow reconciled his sin against his "good works" or his potential ability to threaten the leaders or the church. What they failed to recognize was their inaction appeared to condone his sin and this was already beginning to destroy the church. Perhaps they thought that if he was surrounded by all the strong, healthy, Corinthian Christians he would change his sinful ways. What happens when you place a piece of rotten fruit into a basket filled with healthy fruit? Do the many who are healthy cure the one that is bad or do they all begin to rot?

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Five of the seven churches that Christ addressed in Revelation chapters two and three, had fallen into bad and dangerous practices. Didn't Christ hold each of these assemblies accountable to change their ways? Didn't He speak to them as their leader (Corinthians 1:18)? Why was it necessary for Him to call these problems to their attention? Could it be their shepherds were no longer protecting these flocks from wolves? Could it be their prophets, appointed to be watchmen, had left their post?

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The church that is consistent with its discipline, vigilant in its awareness, loving and just with its application will endure a pruning that makes way for more and better fruit. The church that refuses to recognize the sickness of sin within its body will die. There are a number of different offences which attack the church from within. Each of these must be dealt with as prescribed in the New Testament scriptures.

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Dealing With A Sinning Brother

Dealing with a Christian brother who has wronged you in some way does not begin with the church as a body but rather, with you as an individual. If a brother sins against (wrongs) you, go tell him about it privately, perhaps it's a misunderstanding or the problem can be resolved in a way that preserves your relationship with him. However, if he will not listen to you, go to him a second time with one or two witnesses from the church who can listen impartially to both sides and testify to the accuracy of your accusation. Reason with him together and resolve the matter in this manner if possible. If he refuses to receive the counsel of this three or four man delegation, then bring the matter before the church and present it to the congregation. Let the witnesses present the case and the elders and congregation decide the matter. If the offender refuses the instruction and correction of the elders and congregation, then he should be regarded as one who is no longer a member of God's family.

Matthew 18:15-17
15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.

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Defiant Sinning

Anyone that we assume to be a Christian brother or sister found living an immoral life, a life of hypocrisy, one routinely engaging in fornication, adultery, drunkenness, deceit or criminal behavior  should be expelled from the assembly immediately (Romans 6:16). All fellowship with this person should be discontinued until such time as complete repentance has been verified as was done with the man who was found sinning with his stepmother.

1 Corinthians 5:9-13
9 I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
10 Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world.
11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
12 For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
13 But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.

Galatians 6:1-2
6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.
2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

2 Corinthians 2:6-8
6 Sufficient to such a man is this punishment, which was inflicted of many.
7 So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow.
8 Wherefore I beseech you that ye would confirm your love toward him.

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Trouble Makers

Even a fellow believer can exhibit character weaknesses that lend themselves to destroying the unity of the church. Among these are those who gossip and carry tales, those who try to recruit a personal following, those who debate in order to elevate themselves in the assembly or those who are always looking to find fault, place blame or foster hard feelings which fuel grudges. Doctrinal debate in the proper setting should be encouraged but only if it serves the cause of truth never if it is being used as a tool for pride or division. Those who do these divisive things should be warned not to engage in such practices. If they continue, making it necessary to rebuke them again, they should be informed that the next time will result in their rejection and expulsion from the church.

Titus 3:9-11
9 But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.
10 A man that is an heretick after the first and second admonition reject;
11 Knowing that he that is such is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned of himself.

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Those Who Practice Church Their Way

The church was founded on the work of Christ and His apostles and it must be firmly understood that it was bought and paid for with His sinless blood. Any attempt by man to add to it, take from it or in any way change it, violates the traditions of the apostles. If we add to the church, we establish something unauthorized and not practiced by the apostles. If we take away anything the New Testament apostles practiced, we discontinue one of their traditions. If we change the form, pattern or teaching of these foundational laborers, we violate apostolic tradition and God's command. Those who fail to recognize or follow these traditions are walking without the authorization of God and so, are behaving in a disorderly manner. When men begin to worship and serve God their way rather than His way, they cease to be a church and begin to function as a sect. It is sad to see such disobedience to God's word accompanied by such false justification, but when this occurs we, as being obedient, have no choice but to withdraw from any who deviate from the biblical traditions of the apostles (2 Thessalonians 3:6). When other brethren attempt to meet all New Testament traditions but practice them in a slightly different way, we should not assume they're being unfaithful to traditions but are rather trying to keep them according to their understanding. Perhaps they'll learn from us or we from them, the Holy Spirit will be the ultimate teacher that guides us into all truth. Those who choose to disobey the biblical traditions of the apostles should be admonished (strongly instructed) as a brother to follow them but should not be counted as an enemy.

2 Thessalonians 3:14-15
14 And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.
15 Yet count him not as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.

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Against An Elder

Those in leadership positions serve as models for those they lead. This does not make them infallible, only more accountable to God and to those they lead (James 3:1). When an elder is guilty of a random sin such as a display of bad attitude, temper, etc, it may be called to his attention by another brother as a means of helping him or reminding him of his responsibility to the flock and to Christ. We should never rebuke him but entreat him as a father (1 Timothy 5:1). When he engages in immoral or violent behavior or habitual sin of any kind, the matter must be handled with extreme care. If the leader comes forward before discovery, he may, by his repentance, be allowed to remain as a member of the flock but must not occupy a position of leadership until such time as he has gained victory over the confessed behavior. In this regard, he should be returned to a novice position within the assembly and remain in this position until he has demonstrated victory over his previous behavior, this may take several years to accomplish. Unless an accusation against an elder can be proven, by the testimony of two or three witnesses, it should not be considered as sufficient reason to take action against him (1 Timothy 5:19).

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If a leader is discovered living in habitual sin and playing the hypocrite and does not come forward on his own but rather is found out (discovered), he should be expelled from the assembly at once without hesitation or delay. Every member should refuse to fellowship with him. It is my opinion that once he has repented from living apart from Christ, he may join himself to another assembly if he so chooses but may not return to the one he betrayed. Sin has consequences! The test that confronts the flock at this point is one of survival. If the assembly has been well taught and brought to maturity, they will continue to meet and will select, from among their numbers, a new leader, providing one can be found that meets the appropriate biblical qualifications. If there are other leaders already functioning, and there should be, then they should encourage and guide the church through this period of healing and recovery. The church whose focus has been on Christ, though shaken, will not be crushed by a fallen leader but the church whose focus has been on the leader will break into pieces like a clay vessel

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The enemy is ever searching for ways to injure or fatally wound the body of Christ (the church) (1 Peter 5:8). He knows and exploits our fleshly weaknesses. He focuses especially on leaders and he is well aware of scripture and the principles of God. He knows that, in most cases, if you destroy the shepherd, the sheep he led will scatter. Sheep who wander away from the flock are easy prey for the lion.

Matthew 26:31
31 Then saith Jesus unto them, All ye shall be offended because of me this night: for it is written, I will smite the shepherd, and the sheep of the flock shall be scattered abroad.

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When Satan is unable to overcome the man of God, he uses plan "B" to discredit and defame him. Using one of his favorite weapons, deception, he, as the father of lies, begins to create doubt about leadership through gossip and suspicion. These lies are spread among the assembly in an attempt to bring down God's leader. This is why it's so important for leaders to exercise extreme caution by abstaining, when possible, from the appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22). This is also why we must not be quick to assume a leader or leaders are guilty of wrongdoing. We must not entertain any accusation brought against a leader unless it's supported by two or three witnesses and involves serious immoral behavior. Serious breeches in moral conduct such as fornication, theft, violence, etc if even done briefly or only once, should result in the immediate expulsion of the leader from the assembly but these charges must be verified by two or three creditable witnesses. Once guilt has been determined, the consequences must be swift and sure. The church of God must wear the clean, white garments of righteousness and it is up to all in the assembly to make sure they stay that way.

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The Universal Church

The church universal is comprised of priests scattered all over the world, a priesthood dedicated to the service of their High Priest and King. They are faithful to only one Lord; they have but one faith and have been consecrated into service and sealed by one Spirit. They serve one God who is the Father of them all, who is above all, operating through all and dwelling in all (Ephesians 4:4-6). Together this royal priesthood forms one universal holy nation which is loyal to its only Lord and King, Jesus Christ (1Peter 2:9). This nation is scattered throughout the world, its subjects can be found in every country. The enemy of Christ is Satan and he continually makes war with the people of the universal church of Christ.

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This universal church is made up of multiple assemblies found in cities, towns and villages all over the world. These spiritual families are meeting in Africa, Asia, Europe, North and South America. The enemy of God weakens each by division. He encourages each to see the others through the eyes of the flesh, to look upon the outward appearance instead of seeing with the eyes of Christ and reasoning with the mind of Christ (Philippians 2:5). The members of God's priesthood are packaged in various beautiful colors and bear wonderfully different features that make each unique. They speak a variety of intricate and melodious languages but all these qualities are used by Satan to spread fear, suspicion and violence among God's holy nation. Satan is dedicated to the destruction of the church; he causes men to look at the outward appearance and instead of appreciating the artistry of the creator who made us all. He instills bigotry and pride as if we were somehow responsible for our own appearance. How can any man be criticized or praised for a product he didn't create. Those outside the holy nation of God see only what the natural eye sees but those within see through the eyes of the Spirit; they see what others cannot, they see with spiritual eyes.

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The human spirit, the spiritual man comes wrapped in a container like many of the products at a store but we don't buy these products for the package they come in but for the contents inside. The value of the product, the things we seek, are found inside the container but the container, the box or bag is discarded as trash once the product no longer occupies it. The same is true for our bodies, our human containers. These too, are discarded once they are no longer filled with the spirit of life. A single substance may be sold in a variety of colored and differently shaped containers. The enemy would have us focus on the differences in our packaging but God would have us see the value of the substance that each package contains. We are not responsible for the color of our fleshly package, God is!

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The chosen generation, the holy nation of God's people must not be deceived by different colored packaging instead, we must learn to see with the eyes of the Spirit, to see the spiritual man that lies within the package. If we don't, we'll forever be blind victims of satanic prejudice. I will forever be a white man in the eyes of some of my brown brothers when instead, I should be seen as a fellow Christian and priest, wrapped in a white package. These packages that now contain us will, regardless of color, grow old and worn. The outer man will fall apart and turn to dust but the real person, the soul that lived within, will return to God for final judgment and disposition.

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I can't help what I look like, the shape or color of my eyes or nose, my height or the color of my skin. If anyone has a problem with that, they need to take it up with my maker. However, I am responsible for what I am within; the kind of man I am. As a Christian, I have yielded my life to God. If we allow, He will fashion each of us in the image of His son. As Christians we cannot, we must not, look upon the flesh, its color or fashion. We must focus on the inner man. The inner man is the same in all of God's people. When we are wounded, is the blood released not red? When we cry, are our tears not clear and salty? When we pray, do we not speak with the same Father? Are we not brothers and sisters, part of God's one, universal, family? Do we not share the same spirit of life and are we not led by the same Holy Spirit from within?

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The Church Community

Each community is a family of neighborhood assemblies and each assembly supplies its unique gifts to other church assemblies who lack them. Each exchanging their gifts as the need of each assembly requires. If the leaders of each assembly truly love one another and enjoy the sweet fellowship that only sincere friendship brings, then those who follow these leaders will imitate their example and the assembly of one church will grow to love the other. When they meet, there will be joy and laughter, music and fellowship, a sense of belonging to something greater than either of them. A church can’t exist that has no fellowship, no communion with other assemblies. An assembly cannot be a church unless it is attached to the body of Christ thus any assembly that stands alone, having no relationship with other assemblies might be a cult but not a church. The church is the body of Christ! The spiritual health of the local church body depends on the relationship each of its assemblies have with each other.

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The Neighborhood Assembly

The neighborhood assembly is only as strong, only as healthy as its families are. The neighborhood church is a family of families and the spiritual condition of each family will determine the spiritual health of that neighborhood church. Each member of the family is a potential leader or one already in service. A leader's first ministry is to his own family, especially to their marital partner. If care and affection are routinely displayed by parents before the children, then the children will grow in a loving and secure environment regardless of material circumstances. A child's security and sense of worth is founded in the relationship mom and dad have with each other. If that relationship is loving and solid then the world of the child is steady and secure. If the parental relationship is constantly rocked with turmoil then the child can’t be sure their home will survive thus, the child will be tormented by instability and their life fashioned in uncertainty. Children brought up in this type of environment are vulnerable to a variety of satanic assaults and most are severely affected.

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Dad's first ministry must be to Mom. He must lead her but not become her dictator; he must remember who her spiritual Father is. God has only loaned our wife to us; she will always be His and He will expect us men to take proper care of His daughters. He will call us to give account of our behavior toward them. A marriage must never suffer because of a leader's ministry. The ministry must be a joint effort and by joint agreement. Any sacrifices made must be shared but not at the expense of the marriage. Wives submit, obey and reverence your husbands. Marriage is a living symbol of Christ and His church. What is your marriage teaching? Should the church, i.e. the bride of Christ, tell Christ how to run His family? Should the wife have control over the husband? Shouldn't the church concern herself rather with the care and feeding of God's children? How can a church have order if there is no order in its individual families?

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One of the requirements for leadership is that the leader have his family in subjection (1 Timothy 3:4). One of the requirements for the church is that everything be done decently and in order (1 Corinthians 14:40). How is this possible if its families are in disorder? Each husband in each family is the God appointed leader and primary spiritual teacher of that family; of what value is a teacher who won't teach or a leader who won't lead? Leadership is done, in the family of God, by example. As men, we must use our example to set an example.

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What kind of example do we set if we lust after other women or abuse the woman God has provided? What kind of wife can we expect to have; what kind of Godly woman can she be if we, as the family teacher, don't teach them God's word. How can they teach God's word to our children when they themselves, don't know it? A well taught wife becomes the teacher of well taught children and the responsibility for teaching the children is shared equally by each parent though, the head of the family will be held accountable. Single members of the church assembly do well to learn from those who set examples of a proper, loving home. Those with great knowledge and teaching ability, that do not have their family in order, i.e. those not showing proper love and respect, are not proper examples. Young, unmarried women should seek out successful families and follow the example set by those mature women who love and respect their husbands, those women whose success is proven and demonstrated by their loving and obedient family. Young women should follow the positive example set by their spiritual leaders and esteem them highly for the work they do. God has provided these men as the spiritual covering for single women until such time as they are given in marriage. If the earthly father of a single woman is the spiritual leader of his home, he would be the covering needed but let these older, Godly women teach the younger women how to properly maintain a spiritual home (Titus 2:3-5).

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At no time should any married or single woman follow any spiritual leader into sin! Each of us must answer to a higher authority and when our leadership betrays the trust bestowed on them, they cease to be God's representatives. Authority can only be received and followed when it represents the Lord. When it stops short of obeying the will of God, it ceases to be authority and no longer must be obeyed. How do we know when leaders have betrayed their authority? When they compromise God's word as clearly seen in the new covenant. Obeying any authority which requires us to violate God's word or our conscience is sin. It's sin for the leader who yields to temptation and sin for the one who blindly follows them.

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Members of the neighborhood assembly are individually gifted. Some have wealth, others talent, some have knowledge while others have spiritual gifts but all benefit the entire assembly and such gifts are given for just this purpose. These gifts must be shared with one another if God's will is to be done. We are our brother's keeper. Our brother's business is our business and his needs are our needs. If we fail to meet these needs, we fail as a church. We become nothing more than an attractive, empty, package containing nothing of real value. We must look after the needs; the material, physical, mental and spiritual needs of each member if we are to be a real church. If we don't, we're not!

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Chapter And Verse

Division is never caused by those who seek biblical truth; it comes as a result of not recognizing it. The word "doctrine" simply means teaching and sound doctrine is another way for saying healthy teaching. It is the right and duty of every church member to question any teaching given by anyone within the church and this applies to questioning leaders also. Leaders should be held accountable; they should always be expected to prove their teachings by providing biblical evidence. If at anytime a teaching is questioned, it should be immediately supported by the appropriate biblical text given in context. Those who have questions should always be given opportunity to speak providing it is done in a respectful and orderly manner. Teachers, intending to teach, should come prepared to prove their teaching. Any instruction unsupported by scripture, should be clearly labeled as personal opinion and nothing more.

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Doctrinal Challenges

As we grow in Christ and come in contact with other brethren, we're exposed to new concepts and new teachings. Sometimes, other doctrinal positions present challenges to our beliefs. When this happens, our immediate, natural tendency is to resist. We automatically assume that these differences are in error and quickly dismiss them. We're nervous over being challenged and comfortable with our present system of beliefs.

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No true Christian should ever be afraid to face a doctrinal challenge (1 Timothy 2:15) or put their doctrine on trial. Remember, however to put the doctrine on trial and not its advocate. If your position is correct, it won't crumble. The truth never does but if it's incorrect, it should crumble and disappear. The only thing that would allow us to hold onto our error is pride and pride will keep us spreading it also. Doctrine (teaching) doesn't cause division, men do. Believing we possess all truth is both bigoted and prideful. We should be thinking, "Lord, save me from those who are pridefully blessed with the total knowledge of all truth and deliver me into the humble hands of those who still seek it."

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A Doctrinal Hearing

When a rift (separation) begins in any church over a doctrinal issue, a date and time should be set by the elders for a "doctrinal hearing". Advocates, respecting each doctrinal position, should be selected from among those most capable who support the position. They should be given a minimum of ten (10) days to prepare. The appointed time of the "hearing" should be published for the whole church so as to achieve maximum participation from the assembly. Then on the appointed day, the entire church should be assembled to examine, review and test the two opposing positions. It is my opinion that new members with less than six months of church participation should not be included in this process. The extent of their false, previously held doctrine is unknown and our ability to place confidence in their biblical judgment is justifiably in question. Let them first prove themselves. Debate and disagreement are not strangers to the church; they never have been nor ever will be.

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We must trust that God's word is not ambiguous; it can stand the test. We must admit that debate over such things is normal and even healthy in the church if done decently and in order. What is not normal or prudent is for the church to be caught off guard and not prepared to deal, in a biblical way, with this type of issue. The opposing doctrines should be given a proper doctrinal hearing and the church should have an established and orderly way to proceed with this challenge. The church should also be prepared to adopt a new biblical understanding if necessary.

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We have a model to follow. God has not left us without tools or an example to deal with these issues. If we fail to recognize this and take the necessary steps to provide a suitable format for reviewing and resolving these challenges, the result could be division. Do we have enough biblical information to guide us through these hidden reefs of adversity? Of course! God has not left us to be dashed to pieces on the rocky shores of confrontation like some rudderless ship cast adrift.

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Our biblical example can be found in the book of Acts, chapter fifteen and it resembles a courtroom scene. On trial and opposing each other are two firmly entrenched positions. One stems from old covenant beliefs, the other is a product of newly supplied experience and information. We are about to examine the first recorded "doctrinal hearing". This meeting will include judges (elders), two well versed advocates (opposing representation for each doctrine on trial), witnesses if required, evidence (all based on scripture), a tribunal of elders and a jury which, in this case, is each member of the congregation.

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The issue is circumcision. The place, the church at Jerusalem. The judging tribunal are the elders and apostles of Christ. The opposing advocates representing the old school of beliefs are the converted Pharisees and representing the new is the apostle Peter supported by two witnesses known as Barnabus and Paul. The recorded text is Acts 15:4-22.

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The issue which posses the challenge has been raised by the Pharisees and supports the principle of circumcision among the newly converted gentiles. The opposing view, held by our two missionaries and advocated by Peter, is that gentiles should not be burdened with the same yoke which brought Israel to ruin (Acts 15:10). Peter claims that both Jews and gentiles have been given salvation through the grace of God (Acts 15:11).

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Today, we might imagine the judges or tribunal of elders are assigned to keep order and maintain the integrity of all scriptural evidence presented. These judging elders should be prepared to give a full and impartial hearing to each doctrinal position. They will make sure that each advocate is heard without interruption. They alone will have this ability. They will review all scriptural evidence excluding from it any which cannot be verified biblically. They will ignore all personal opinion and instruct the assembly to do the same. They will not allow misused doctrine, doctrine taken out of context or material unconnected with the sacred text. A concordance with a Greek and Hebrew dictionary might be used but nothing more. Bible commentaries will not be allowed in the room nor quotes from any famous person, Christian or otherwise.

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Each scripture given should be carefully considered by the judges with respect to its application and relevance and those not relevant should be excluded from evidence. The jury, comprised of the entire church assembly in attendance, (those not in attendance are excluded) should be presented with all pertinent evidence necessary to make a final judgment. The elders will submit their recommendations as was done in Jerusalem and the entire body will decide which doctrine to uphold. Any who do not accept the verdict of the church and continue the debate within the assembly will be considered as divisive and admonished. If they continue, they should be warned to comply once more before being expelled from the assembly.

Titus 3:10-11
10 A man that is an heretick after the first and second admonition reject;
11 Knowing that he that is such is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned of himself.

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In Jerusalem, the tribunal of apostles and elders made their recommendations to the assembly and then all the assembly, with the judges, made their determination.

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James, an elder and Peter, an apostle, took part in a recommendation that pleased the church to approve. If we follow these principles, we should see the same results. The same Holy Spirit that guided them is here to guide us.

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Let's Review

The opposing doctrines are put on trial and each has a qualified advocate. Next, the elders keep order and listen to each argument without allowing the opposition to interrupt. They evaluate all evidence and do not allow personal opinion or emotional feelings to enter into the process nor do they allow improper reference sources or scripture, taken out of context, to be received as evidence. As a spiritual tribunal, the elders render an opinion as to their position with the appropriate biblical evidence and then present it to the congregation. The congregation, after hearing the recommendation of the elders, together with all parties concerned, renders a final judgment. The entire church should agree to abide by this decision until and unless new biblical evidence is brought to light. Should this happen, at a later time, another doctrinal hearing would be called and the process repeated. Some will not be open to this kind of doctrinal examination believing they already know the truth of the matter. Such a position prohibits growth and encourages spiritual pride.

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Good Disciples Study

There are many false teachers in today's world and many false teachings. Most false teachers, are victims of false teaching and continue to pass to their disciples, the error they learned. Ignorance of God’s word makes it possible for this destructive pattern to continue, ignorance, together with pride and cowardess. This is why it's so important for Christians to study, research and regularly review all their doctrinal positions, especially those hand-me-down doctrines believed from childhood (2 Timothy 2:15). Some recognize flawed teaching but are too cowardly to speak up. Others are too prideful to back down and admit they've been wrong. We must either take action or be guilty of supporting false teachers. Do we want the truth or is getting others to believe we’re right more important? Just hope important is winning the debate and saving our selfish pride? If we discover an error in our understanding today and correct it, don't we become better teachers tomorrow? Do we really want to fight against truth to save our pride? Aren't we more likely to suffer repeated embarrassment by trying to defend an error, rather than admitting one? If we correct the error that has embarrassed us, we will never be embarrassed by that same error again nor suffer guilt from perpetuating it. If we admit it, what will our fellow brethren think of us? They'll think we're honest, true to God's word, seeking only truth and open to learn and become better teachers. What's wrong with that?

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Only those who are immature or insecure in Christ, those concerned about their image refuse to receive truth when confronted with it. They continue to argue by repeating, "This is what I believe" as though what they believe is chiseled in stone. Better to say, "This is my present understanding" and by doing so, leave the door open for further spiritual light, i.e.  new truth. Let's also never be afraid to challenge each other's beliefs by asking, "Can you give me chapter and verse on that please." Putting a doctrinal issue, into the hands of an unenlightened church to decide, is risky at best. The best assurance for the support of biblical truth is an informed and well educated congregation of true disciples. This holds true for revealing and weeding out poor leaders or self proclaimed prophets and apostles as well. Well taught brethren simply won’t tolerate poor or false teaching from anyone no matter what their title.

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False Teachers

The scriptures tell us that in the last days, men will become haters of truth, having the appearance of godliness while denying God's power (2 Timothy 3:1-9). We are told that many will turn from the healthy teaching of God's truth to teaching and preaching the things that justify their own lustful appetites. Such men would rather hear lies that support their sinful behavior than the truth that condemns such living (2 Timothy 4:1-5). The ink was still wet on the New Testament parchments when these wicked teachers were already at work. In those days, these men were found mingling among the church. They were called the circumcision and taught that every believer was accountable to the law of Moses but this was a lie.

Galatians 3:24-25
24 Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.
25 But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster.

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They were as weeds among wheat, then and now (Matthew 13:24-30, 36-43). Such men seek leadership and when they have it they teach for profit, for power and for vanity (1 Peter 5:1-4, Titus 1:10-11). They are hired men and when real trouble threatens the church, they're the first to run. Why? Because they're nothing more than men who sell themselves for hire (John 10:12-13). Such men often teach destructive heresies. To increase their wealth, they exploit their disciples with deceptive words and leave a path of destruction everywhere they go.

2 Peter 2:1-3
1 But there were false prophets also among the people, even as there shall be false teachers among you, who privily shall bring in damnable heresies, even denying the Lord that bought them, and bring upon themselves swift destruction.
2 And many shall follow their pernicious ways; by reason of whom the way of truth shall be evil spoken of.
3 And through covetousness shall they with feigned words make merchandise of you: whose judgment now of a long time lingereth not, and their damnation slumbereth not.

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False Prophets

Jesus warned us that many would come to deceive us before His return (Matthew 24:5), False prophets are already among our people and many false prophets have already gone out into the world (1 John 4:10). We are encouraged to test the spirits. Why not? If Gideon was right in testing God (Judges 6:36-40), then wouldn't it be wise and biblical to test anyone claiming to speak for God? How do you test a prophet? You test his gift. How do you test his gift? Prophets claim to be nothing more than one God has sent to reveal His will and His message. If God didn't mind being tested by Gideon, then why would He mind us testing His appointed and anointed spokesman? God doesn't change, does He (Malachi 3:6, Hebrews 13:8)? Do the scriptures instruct us on how to test a prophet? No! But common sense would suggest you test him on something that a prophet is supposed to be able, with God's help, to do. I would not suggest you ask him to walk on water but you might ask him to raise an ax head and make it float (2 Kings 6:1-7).

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Prophets are supposed to be able to reveal things that are only known to God. My suggestion would be to test them in this area. At our church, we keep a tiny, wooden box which contains a single verse of scripture within. I call this our prophet tester. Anyone claiming to be a prophet and asking to prophesy in our midst is first asked to tell us what the scripture is, that’s hidden in the box and to quote it. If they're unable or unwilling to comply, they fail the test. Remember, it's God who said test them. If they fail, they don't get to give the message they claim to have from God. If they reveal the contents of the box, we are anxious to hear what God has to say through them. This is our method, you may choose another, but test them we must!

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False Apostles

Apostles are men chosen by God and recognized by elders. They are sent to distant locations to begin new churches. Raising a new church is very much like raising a family. We must begin by planting seeds of spiritual life so that they grow into spiritual babies. We must nurture these newborns, feedings them the milk of God's word until they're old enough and mature enough to receive the solid food (deeper truths) of God's word.

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Like a father, the apostle has complete oversight of this new and growing work. He and his team watch it grow from baby to girl, girl to maiden, maiden to woman. At the proper time, he places this fledging church in the hands of the elders and they become the overseers of her life and future. It is at this point she becomes a church. When a man puts his daughter's care in the hands of another, he must not attempt to maintain control or he will loose them both. He may offer advice or council. Most certainly, he will always enjoy their love and respect unless he assumes, or attempts to assume, further oversight. He may write or visit. If problems arise, he may make himself available for them but he must not interfere unless invited. Each church must be allowed to stand or fall on its own as did the churches of Revelation, chapters two and three. We can offer advice, but we must not try to take over, to seize control.

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Elders are appointed by God to oversee the church and apostles are appointed by God to oversee the work; they are church planters. When an apostle returns to a church he has planted, he comes as a respected brother not as an apostle. The authority of the apostle is given when he is sent out from the church, not when he enters into it. It was Barnabas and Paul who labored together to plant the church at Antioch in Syria where the followers of Christ were first called Christians. It was the elders and prophets of this same church that laid hands on them and sent them out in obedience to the Holy Spirit.

Acts 13:1-4
1 Now there were in the church that was at Antioch certain prophets and teachers; as Barnabas, and Simeon that was called Niger, and Lucius of Cyrene, and Manaen, which had been brought up with Herod the tetrarch, and Saul.
2 As they ministered to the Lord, and fasted, the Holy Ghost said, Separate me Barnabas and Saul for the work whereunto I have called them.
3 And when they had fasted and prayed, and laid their hands on them, they sent them away
4 So they, being sent forth by the Holy Ghost, departed unto Seleucia; and from thence they sailed to Cyprus.

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Paul returned to Antioch (in Syria, Acts 14:21-26) after appointing elders in every church and commending them to the Lord. Paul returned again to Antioch (the church he and Barnabas planted) to give a report to the church there. When Paul entered this completed work, he wasn't in charge of it but rather, was subject to it. The church didn't have to give a report to Paul, Paul had to give a report to the church (Acts 14:21-28).

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Many of today's self-appointed apostles place themselves over every work they can, whether begun by them or another. They seek to build their own empire, enlarge their reputation and increase their influence over God's holy nation. Those who seek to dominate, disqualify themselves from the very title they falsely seize. They are false apostles seeking only profit and glory for themselves rather than Christ. They choose to lead and be served rather than serve and they pyramid their followers into an organization like the Nicolatians before them (2 Corinthians 11:5-15, Revelation 2:6, 15).

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If they're apostles, why are they home executing their influence over the church? Why aren't they in the field among the unsaved, harvesting souls for the kingdom of God? Why aren't they gathering the lost, the hurting, the lonely, and teaching them of Jesus? Shouldn’t they be teaching them how to be a spiritual family, a church? Why aren't they appointing elders and moving on? If they're home, they're accountable to give a report of their actions to the church. Let's ask them for one. If they're seeking followers at home, they're misguided to say the least and are in need of directions. The mission field is the other way, this mission field has already been planted.

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Do we have the right to test an apostle? Yes, and it's our responsibility to do so (Revelation 2:2). How do you test an apostle? You look at his churches. Has he begun any? Who do they report to? Is he still an overseer of them? He may be an elder in one, as Peter and John were, but he cannot be an overseer of them all. If the apostle is an elder in one, it's only one; his home church and when he's in it, he's an elder, not an apostle.

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Getting It Straight

Many of today's Christians have been taught Nicolatian authority. They believe that Christ is at the top of the church, He is, next to him, the apostles are the second highest authority, then the prophets and after them, evangelists followed by the elders and teachers. This is all wrong! This is false. Having said this, let me assert that indeed Christ is the head of the church and His apostles were sent in His authority just as Christ came in the authority of His Father.

John 20:21
21 Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father hath sent me, even so send I you.

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Each of the above mentioned names are job descriptions, not titles. A doctor oversees the health of the body, a lawyer, the rights of an individual and the engineer, the design project he's been assigned. It's not the doctor who oversees the lawyer who in turn oversees the engineer. A doctor's field is medicine, a lawyer's law and an engineer's creative development.

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An apostle oversees the work of establishing a new church. A prophet brings the messages of God to those God sends him to. An evangelist works to expand the work of God in a region and an elder oversees completed church. Elders teach and train disciples from which God will choose more apostles, prophets, evangelists, teachers, elders and deacons. One calling is not above another, all must work in cooperation with each other. Each member of an assembly is required to do the work of an evangelist, though they may never be called to be one. The same is true for other functions as well, i.e. church planting, bringing revelation, taking oversight, teaching or serving.

2 Timothy 4:5
5 But watch thou in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, make full proof of thy ministry.

Proverbs 11:30
30 The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life; and he that winneth souls is wise.

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Three Types Of Apostles

There are three classes of apostles and we should never get them confused with each other, for each serves God in a unique way.

The word "apostle" means ambassador, messenger, he that is sent. Before the beginning of the church, God sent His first apostle. "For God so loved the world that He sent/gave His only begotten son (John 3:16-17)." There has never been another like Him nor another one given His mission. He was unique. He alone was the only begotten of the Father. He alone was the mediator between God and man. He alone was the propitiation for the sins of the world. He alone had the power to lay down His life or take it up again. He alone has thus far ascended to the Father and He alone is the cornerstone of the church. He alone is King of Kings and Lord of Lords and He alone will judge the living and the dead.

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When Jesus, the apostle of God, came among us, He selected a group of twelve men whom He discipled to be His apostles. These were picked by Him, face to face. They alone will judge Israel. They alone had the power to forgive or not forgive sins. They alone will have their names etched into the twelve foundations of the New Jerusalem. They alone formed the foundation of the church, God's spiritual house. They alone handed down the traditions that true Christians follow and they alone constructed the model that became the New Testament pattern for the church.

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The third class of apostles are what we now call missionaries. The missionary too, is sent out commissioned by the Holy Spirit. Let's review it again. Jesus was sent out by His Father. The apostles of Jesus were sent out by Him. The apostles or missionaries of today are sent out by the Holy Spirit (Acts 13:20). Christ became the chief cornerstone of the spiritual building we call the church. The cornerstone sets the standard, the line for its height, width and length. The apostles were sent to build the foundation that would mark the limits of the structure and together with Christ, support its total weight. The apostles of the Spirit, today's missionaries, are sent to build God's spiritual house, setting each living stone in place by the power and leading of the Spirit, who fashions each stone in the image of Christ. Today’s  apostles add each new stone used to build up (increase) God's spiritual house, their mission is to increase the church by forming new converts into new assemblies, i.e. churches, thus increasing the kingdom of God. Their mission, their spiritual gifts and their authority are all focused on expanding God's kingdom. The gifts of the missionary and their authority is meant to be used when they're in the field, not when they're in the church. We would not confuse the mission of the twelve apostles with the mission of Christ likewise, we shouldn't confuse the mission of today's missionaries or church planters with that of the twelve apostles, their mission and the parameters of their authority were different and unique to them alone. Today’s missionaries do not carry the same authority as the “twelve”, though they share the same mission objective, the planting of churches and God’s word.

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Overlap

These various areas of spiritual responsibility are separate and individual callings of God. The callings are separate but the gifts used to fulfill these callings overlap. As previously stated, we are all called to do the work of an evangelist. All of us may evangelize by spreading the good news of God but this does not make us an evangelist. Everyone can sing but not everyone is a singer. Everyone can teach but not everyone is a teacher. Anyone might be responsible for starting a church but that doesn't make them an apostle. On occasion, anyone might receive a word from the Lord but that doesn't make them a prophet. Each of these callings require much more than the mere, intermittent execution of a spiritual gift. Elders may pray for a brother or sister who is sick and anoint them with oil but the healing that follows does not mean that God is calling them to a special healing ministry. There are no titles in God's work, only various jobs to be done and when God calls us to work, He supplies the tools that are needed.

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False Brethren

We've talked about false apostles, prophets, teachers, etc. but we haven't mentioned false brethren. There are plenty of these everywhere (Galatians 2:4). They look to take advantage of our hospitality and generosity. They seek out ways to attach themselves, like a parasite feeding off a healthy tree. They promise much, deliver little and take advantage when they can (2 Timothy 3:6, Jude 4). We will know them by their fruit. Do they keep God's commandments (1 John 2:3-4)? If not, they're not family.

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The Holy Kiss

Families around the world have various ways of showing affection for each other. Some countries reflect a more stoic position in this regard than others. Latin countries like Spain, Portugal, Italy and France tend to be more demonstrative in their displays of affection than their neighbors in northern Europe who prefer a more reserved, more conservative, posture.

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As God's children, we must be careful to maintain balance between two factors. First, we must realize that we are part of the same holy nation (1 Peter 2:9) and as such, have been handed down traditions and customs peculiar to our kingdom. Secondly, it may be right for us to observe a Christian custom, like the holy kiss, but not at the expense of offending a brother or sister in Christ who may not be accustomed to this tradition. In this case, it is wiser and more loving to abstain from this liberty (1 Corinthians 8:12).

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No true student of the New Testament could deny that the brethren of the early church customarily greeted each other with a kiss. More precisely, a holy kiss. What is a holy kiss? We have no definite description of this kiss but it was most likely done in the same manner described by Jesus in His parable of the prodigal son (Luke 15:20). In this parable, the father kissed his son upon his neck. When Paul was leaving Ephesus, the elders fell on Paul's neck and kissed him. In the Old Testament, when Esau saw his brother Jacob he embraced him then fell on his neck and kissed him (Genesis 33:4). When Joseph was reunited with his younger brother, Benjamin, he fell upon his neck and kissed him (Genesis 45:14). Once again, when Joseph was reunited with his father, Jacob (Israel), he fell on his neck and though it doesn't say he kissed him given the circumstances, one could properly assume he did (Genesis 46:29).

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With respect to the above mentioned scriptural references, I would say it is safe to say the holy kiss is one placed on the neck. It is a gesture of pure love which transcends any recognition of gender. Most likely this kiss was placed just beneath and behind the ear to avoid the beard, but this is only a guess. Should we continue this custom? If we are to keep the traditions of the apostles, we would have to (2 Thessalonians 3:6). If we are one unified holy nation in Christ then we would indeed share the same customs and traditions (1 Peter 2:9). Should we force this practice on other brethren who have not yet arrived at this understanding? Should we risk offending a brother or sister in Christ? Once again, no! We need to be patient with those who have not yet been instructed in this and teach them before expecting them to comply.

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Why is kissing necessary? Can't we just hug? If we take this position we may as well continue by questioning the other traditions of our faith. Why baptize by complete immersion, why not just sprinkle? Why commemorate the last supper using unleavened bread and wine; why not use beer and pretzels? If we make these substitutions, can we honestly say we follow the entire New Testament? If we pick and choose what we think we ought to obey, are we any better than those spoken of in Judges 21:25?

Judges 21:25
25 In those days there was no king in Israel: every man did that which was right in his own eyes.

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I suggest, if we fail to obey these traditions others might think we have no king.

The word "brethren" applies equally, in most places, to both men and women and so as men, we must remember to approach our sisters as sisters in all reverence and respect. For those who doubt the scriptural validity of the holy kiss, I suggest they read the following: Luke 7:45, Luke 15:20, Acts 20:37, Romans 16:16, 1 Corinthians 16:20, 2 Corinthians 13:12, 1 Thessalonians 5:26 and 1 Peter 5:14. If any doubt continues, I would suggest bringing it before God for His guidance and help.

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Feet Washing

Before going to the cross, Christ gave us two customs to observe. First, He gave us a means of remembering His death until His return (the Lord's supper) and second, He gave us an example of what He wanted us to demonstrate to each other (John 13:1-17). In each of these, He didn't set a frequency as to their observance. Concerning the Lord's supper He said, "Do this in remembrance of me." With regard to feet washing He said, "I have given an example, that you should do as I have done to you" (John 13:15).

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Some might suggest He did this to illustrate His desire for us to love and serve each other and in principle this is true but by giving us an example, He made this physical observance also necessary. Jesus taught love and demonstrated His humility and love daily, so why demonstrate this by washing His disciple's feet if not to teach us to observe it just as He did?

John 13:16-17
16 Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him.
17 If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them.

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How often each assembly practices this custom is up to that assembly but it should be observed as our Lord and King requested.

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In the little church in our house, we do this each New Year's Eve to remind each other to dedicate ourselves to serving one another. We are reminded to think of others as better than ourselves (Philippians 2:3). If a confrontation exists between any of the brethren, we require and expect forgiveness and healing. We would also encourage each of the brethren involved to wash each other's feet following our weekly observance of the Lord's supper as a public demonstration before the body of Christ that the matter is ended.

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This is how we observe this custom but it's not the only way to observe it, it's just our way. Let's follow the example Christ gave us. Let's wash each other's feet and live its meaning every day.

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Women, Authority And Obedience

Each of us as Christians are given the opportunity to demonstrate to a lost and sin filled world our commitment to Christ and our willingness to submit to Him as He submitted to His Father. The custom of feet washing reveals this attitude by its very nature. It illustrates the heart of a true servant. No element of society has better opportunity to teach the proper relationship between Christ and His church, than Christian women.

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The church is depicted as a woman, a woman betrothed to Christ. The conduct and demeanor shown by a woman toward her husband or any proper male authority is a living metaphor of Christ and His church. Through the testimony of her submissive conduct, a woman has the unique ability to demonstrate God's will by remaining loyal to the biblical requirements of scripture. God has placed on her the enormous privilege and awesome responsibility of revealing the church's relationship with Christ, to a lost, self-indulgent and prideful world. If the woman rules over her husband or has spiritual authority over men she, by example, teaches all that observe, that the church may rule over Christ (1 Timothy 2:12).

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If she speaks her opinion, comments from her own thought and imaginings or raises any question during the church meeting, she dishonors her husband, her spiritual leader. This also dishonors God and violates the traditions of the apostles (1 Corinthians 14:34-35, 2Thessalonians 3:6) and the word of God (1 Corinthians 11:5). By speaking out of her own mind or heart, she focuses attention on herself, removing the focus from Christ and drawing to herself glory due only to Him. The same holds true if she dresses to draw attention to herself. In the church meeting, she should only speak aloud when under the explicit direction of her authority (head). In this regard, she may read from scripture or other edifying material but only as directed. She may sing as directed, pray or prophesy but in all these cases where she is heard aloud she must demonstrate that she is doing so under the direction of her authority (head). To make this clear to the assembly and to angels, she should voluntarily wear a covering upon her head, one that covers her head completely. She should wear this whenever she prays aloud or prophesies, whether in or out of the church meeting. She must not wear this covering all the time but only when speaking to God or for God aloud. If a woman is not under the headship of her husband or church elders, she need not wear a covering when praying aloud or bringing prophecy, to do so would, in this situation, be an act of hypocrisy.

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A woman who speaks to God aloud or speaks aloud for God without a covering demonstrates to all in attendance that she is her own authority and doesn't care who knows it. By this she dishonors her husband or leader. She displays to the rebellious angels that she recognizes no authority but her own, as they did when they rebelled. Just as she must cover to honor her authority, men must uncover to honor theirs.

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Angels can't see into the heart of man, only God can see men's hearts (1 Kings 8:39). When a woman continues to wear a covering when not speaking to or for God aloud she, by example, teaches a restriction not required by God or His word. She discourages a liberty that was given by Christ, (Galatians 5:1) for by example, she teaches a doctrine of men and not of God. If God wanted women to be covered all the time, His word would say so. The scriptures do not indicate this. To teach or impose this, would be to add to the word of God that which He has not required.

Matthew 15:9
9 But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.

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When a woman sings solo, she sings the words another has written but her thoughts have been focused. When, under authority, she may read scripture or the words of another but her thoughts remain focused. When she prays aloud on behalf of the church, she speaks under church authority. When she prophesies, speaking on God's behalf, she speaks under His authority, uttering aloud the words of God but her thoughts remain unspoken. When covered, she may be used as an instrument to speak in the church assembly but only when covered. Her thoughts, ideas or questions must not be given voice. She must not speak on her own behalf. She must, in this regard, remain silent.

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When she speaks in tongues, she becomes an instrument of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 12:7-8), a trumpet of God, the same is true when she is given interpretation. Indeed, the woman must be silent but she may represent the church congregation in prayer or speak on behalf of church leadership or on behalf of God in prophesy providing all is done decently and in order in obedience to the word of God (1 Corinthians chap 12 and 14).

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If it is right for the church to submit to Christ, then it is right for the women of God to submit to their husbands or other appropriate spiritual leadership. If it is right that Christ laid down His life for the church then it's right for the husband's or the appropriate spiritual leadership to lay down their lives for the women (Ephesians 5:25, 1 John 3:16). If it is proper for the church to listen and obey Christ when He speaks then it is proper for women to keep silent in the church when their husbands and leaders are speaking. Can we agree that it is not for the church to teach Christ but rather Christ to teach and lead the church? If so, then it's not a woman's job to teach or lead men but rather to be under their authority as we are under the authority of Christ (1 Timothy 2:12).

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If any woman feels by doing this she becomes a second class Christian, she demeans herself through her pride. Did Christ become second class when He left the throne room of Heaven to be made lower than the very angels He created? Did He become second class when He knelt to wash His disciple's feet or die a sinner's death? Did such humility, such obedience lower Him in the eyes of almighty God or raise Him to greater esteem?

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A woman will gladly submit to her employer for money and never think of herself as being inferior. She will submit to a teacher or parent and never feel belittled but when it comes to her husband or male spiritual leadership all of a sudden she feels diminished; why? Is it that difficult to see who's behind such feelings?

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Some women feel that if their husbands are free to teach men and women then they should have the same privilege, especially if they have a greater gift for teaching. They don't get it! It's not about ability, it's about obedience. Should I feel cheated as a man because God has not allowed me to birth children? As men and women we were called by God to serve Him in harmony, not unison. We don't always get to play the same notes. Each of us, male and female, have been chosen to reveal Christ in the way He has chosen, to work in tandem together. He chooses the service. We get to choose whether or not to obey. We cannot please God our way. We can only please Him His way.

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Some May Disagree

In chapter eleven of Paul's first letter to the Christians at Corinth, Paul praises the brethren for keeping the ordinances in the way he taught them. These ordinances make it clear that a woman may pray or prophesy in the church. In chapter fourteen of this same letter, Paul instructs the women to be silent in church.

1 Corinthians 14:34
34 Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.

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These two themes appear to be ambiguous unless Paul means they are not to speak from their own imaginings, heart or mind. This would appear to be the case when you consider 1 Corinthians 14:35.

1 Corinthians 14:34
35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

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A question by its very nature emanates from ones own thoughts and therefore, would not be acceptable for a woman to utter within the church assembly. The only way I find to achieve harmony between these two points (1 Corinthians 11 and 1 Corinthians 14) is in the way it's explained here. There is no ambiguity with God!

Matthew 10:20
20 For it is not ye that speak, but the Spirit of your Father which speaketh in you.

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In Review

A church doesn't cease to be a church when the church meeting is over. It continues to function in a variety of ways but there are certain apostolic traditions which must be observed both in and out of the church meeting. During a meeting, the men may not wear hats or any kind of head covering. This applies when speaking aloud for the Lord or speaking to others on His behalf and so this is applicable when offering prayer aloud or prophesy. This applies both in and out of the assembly.

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The same would apply in reverse for women. They would need to cover when speaking prayer aloud or speaking to others on God's behalf (prophesy). They need only do this when praying or giving prophesy although reading from God's word or answering a request from a leader in the church meeting would also be reason to cover (read A Sign For Angels, chapter 12). So then, when a woman prays aloud or prophesies within the church meeting, she must be covered, not during the entire meeting, but only when she's speaking aloud. She, herself, is not allowed to speak anything from her own thoughts or imaginings. Her personal opinions must be kept silent and if she has questions, she should ask her husband at home (1 Corinthians 14:34-35). Woman may teach each other or may teach children but should never attempt to teach or have authority over men (2 Timothy 2:12). Instead, they should learn from their own husbands with all obedience (Ephesians 5:22-24, 1 Peter 3:1-6). This puts the responsibility for their biblical education on their husbands and husbands will have to answer to God for this.

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Both men and women should pay attention to modesty and dress accordingly. Leaders should make no attempt to set any legal standard but let the Holy Spirit guide each member's conscience. Often the way a man or woman dresses reveals much about the spiritual condition of their heart. By making a simple observation, a leader may be able to tell who needs further spiritual attention (Matthew 15:9). This applies both inside and outside the church meeting. Leaders should not wear a suit and tie if most members are dressed in shirts and pants. This too, though subtle is wrong. It silently declares who the leader is. Women should look like women unadorned by worldly ornaments or hair styles designed to call attention to themselves.

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Independence And Interdependence

The greatest testimony the church has is that it's held together solely by the love of Christ and the brethren. If we allow ourselves to become a part of an organization or denomination, we lose this testimony. Never forget, it only takes two little assemblies sharing the same leadership to begin a denomination. Though we meet in houses as the early church did and study the words of scripture as they did, we cease to be a church when we allow our assemblies to be merged under a common leadership. Each church must remain independent, they should freely choose to fellowship with one another from a position of love and obedience to Christ. We need one another, we know that, but we must choose to work together and help one another by choice, freely and without the command or design of a shared leader or organization. Our leader, Jesus Christ, has already called us to unity by serving Him and caring one for another (Matthew 25:31-44, 1 Corinthians 1:10, Ephesians 4:1-16, Philippians 2:1-4). We must love our brethren (1 John 3:10).

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Christ alone is our mediator (1 Timothy 2:5) and we need no other. He has appointed elders, through the Holy Spirit, to oversee His flock and these overseers do not need overseers to oversee them. Christ will hold these overseers accountable so we need not worry about accountability (James 3:1, Hebrews 13:17). If we give up our independence, we are no longer following the early church apostolic pattern and if we stop following the traditions of the apostles, we are no longer a church no matter what we choose to call ourselves.

2 Thessalonians 3:6
6 Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not after the tradition which he received of us.

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Anyone who claims Christ as Lord while yielding their members (parts of their body) to serve sin is a deceiver. He or she is deceived and is trying to deceive others. Those who serve Jesus as Lord, obey Him. Our body is the temple of God. If we are defiling that temple with drugs, tobacco, fornication, etc. how can Christ be Lord of our life? If He's not Lord, He's not our Savior either. If we want Him to have control of our life, we must surrender it to Him. This means we must stop all activity contrary to His word. What does the word "repent" mean? It means change, change today, change now! If you can't serve God and money (Matthew 6:24), then you can't serve God and drugs or tobacco or fornication. You can't serve God and anything except each other. God won't take second place nor will He share His throne with any false god you've chosen to serve.

Romans 6:16
16 Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?

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Elder's Qualifications

Elders should be men who are of sufficient age as to have raised families to physical and spiritual maturity. They should be men of integrity with a moral character recognized as meeting the biblical standard (1 Timothy 3:1-7). They, by serving in lesser capacities, should have demonstrated enough leadership experience and biblical knowledge to lead the flock of God, being able to properly instruct and teach God's word. They must be identified by these qualities, selected by the church planter or elders and approved by the church.

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Deacons

Deacons are appointed by elders to serve in any capacity that their physical, mental and spiritual abilities qualify them for. They are to observe, assist and report any needs that exist among the assembly. Their qualifications are the same as those for elders (1 Timothy 3:8-13) but they need not be gifted in teaching or old enough to have raised families nor should they be new to the faith but should have a record of trustworthiness.

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Let's Review

Apostles plant new churches in distant places
Prophets predict, warn and encourage those to whom they're sent
Evangelists increase the churches in a local region
Teachers explain the deep truths of God's word
Preachers show us how God's word applies to our lives today
Deacons serve the entire assembly in any capacity they can
Note: Teaching is explanation; Preaching is application
These various labors are coordinated by the Holy Spirit through leadership.

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Final Comments

Apostles (missionaries) don't have to be single but it's an advantage if they are because of the travel, inconvenience to family and dangers encountered. Elders don't have to be married but it's better if they are. Managing a home and family is good experience for overseeing a church and it helps in understanding the problems often encountered by the brethren. All elders are teachers but not all teachers are elders. A man may be well qualified to teach but not have enough years to be placed in a position of oversight.

Study this topic or chapter again and again until it becomes part of your church life and God will bless you and your church for it.

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